I have been a very competitive person all my life, fearing of loosing every time. I always ended up comparing myself to others or just being negative overall if I lost. If I won, I felt superior and I felt like I had proved something to someone, but I never really knew who I was proving it to or what was the point i was proving. Winning is always more satisfying than losing, but I have always pressured myself to not lose and if I do, then I mentally beat myself for it. I have grown up with such a fixed mindset about myself and about others, that I just thought things were going to stay the way they were from a start and would never change.
When it comes to collaboration, I really like to take control over the work and know whats going on at all times. I automatically will take over and start working at once, making decisions for the group, assigning roles and planning how things will go in the future. Every time I am embraced by someone who wants to take my place or claims it before I do or simply disagrees on a decision I make, I will be very negative and stubborn about it.
These two aspects of me are two examples of me having a fixed mindset, leaving no room for improvement. All my life I have told myself that maybe I will once be the best at something, or that I might someday feel proud of myself. I've been waiting this my whole life, yet I do nothing about it. What am I waiting for? I don't know, but all I do is wait. After reading "Mindset", I've started to challenge myself and I am currently trying to change my mindset into a growth mindset. I never thought it was going to be hard to transition from one to the other while reading the book, because having a growth mindset seemed the right thing along all the way.
My strong competitiveness and my controlling collaboration can turn out to be the key for my success if I switch my mindset from fixed to growth, not by thinking about it, but by taking action.
Things I should stop doing are:
Things I should start doing:
When it comes to collaboration, I really like to take control over the work and know whats going on at all times. I automatically will take over and start working at once, making decisions for the group, assigning roles and planning how things will go in the future. Every time I am embraced by someone who wants to take my place or claims it before I do or simply disagrees on a decision I make, I will be very negative and stubborn about it.
These two aspects of me are two examples of me having a fixed mindset, leaving no room for improvement. All my life I have told myself that maybe I will once be the best at something, or that I might someday feel proud of myself. I've been waiting this my whole life, yet I do nothing about it. What am I waiting for? I don't know, but all I do is wait. After reading "Mindset", I've started to challenge myself and I am currently trying to change my mindset into a growth mindset. I never thought it was going to be hard to transition from one to the other while reading the book, because having a growth mindset seemed the right thing along all the way.
My strong competitiveness and my controlling collaboration can turn out to be the key for my success if I switch my mindset from fixed to growth, not by thinking about it, but by taking action.
Things I should stop doing are:
- taking things so seriously and personal
- trying to label everyone with one adjective
- putting myself down after failure
- thinking that if I lose once then I will continue to lose every time
- be stubborn about my ideas
- assign people roles and names
- decide alone for a group of people
Things I should start doing:
- opening my mind more
- taking into consideration all ideas/opinions
- thinking on how I can improve after failure
- working hard after failure
- see every competition as experience not as something I need to win
- give people (especially myself) a second chance